Hello Pisoglou nice to see you around, and thanks for your honest answer. I have now a very different view of love, even different from my husband's. I still think of me as a I whereas he quite often thinks of the couple as a 'we', I just don't understand this type of thinking, but we have accepted each other. I have not and will not kill my self and the things I could do just because he doesn't want to make them.
In Portugal there's a saying which roughly says "a friend of another friend doesn't lock you", something like this, which is basically telling you that when people have different opinions but they do not clash, in turn they even make concessions on both sides to try to facilitate decisions and be beneficial to all. Obviously couples fights, and it's almost true that to love is to be a coward, but also not to love it is.
To not allow yourself to love another person and to care about another person is also coward, because you are too afraid. Anyway, I still get your point of view because I has single for a very long time, until pretty much my late 20's when I met my husband who was also my first serious relationship. If love is forever? I don't think so, just because nothing is... However, while it lasts it's nice to have someone by your side, even if it is to call you because he's concerned about your safety.
It's interesting how you mentioned rivers and lakes, and how you pointed well how I'm a river and he's a lake, because that's how I feel. However I would never ever be a person that would cheat on him, like never ever. One man is already too much !
I've had lots of fun in my twenties, I've been there and done that and then that eventually made be to me done with it. I'm more into something else in my 30's, what is it? Don't know. Still trying to figure it out.
My husband told me at lunch time that I change my mind every day about who I am and what I like or dislike, that "I am never satisfied with who I am". I told him " yes, I thought you knew by know, I will always be this way... unsatisfied with me"
